Consuming alcohol has been one of the largest and oldest practices around the world. Many people are happy and drink alcohol same as soda, cakes and other consumable items because they simply enjoy it and maintain their happiness with or without it. Some drink it, when occasionally they feel stressed and look for the relief that it provides like a massage or classical music or a warm cup of tea or other relaxing options that are available.
However, some are considered emotional drinkers and drink in search of a solution that they are looking for hoping to find this mirage in the bottle. They use alcohol to feel better and in their misery, they find the numbness that it provides as a state of temporary relief confused by the solution to be happier in comparison to their current state of discomfort. They get more and more attached to this deception as the source of providing further relief. It is as walking down the street and finding a hole, thinking that if I dig a hole where I am standing I can use the dirt to fill the hole in front of me and not realizing the new hole that they are creating and sinking into it.
Regardless of how they got there, there is an energetic absolute answer that describes all causes. Equally, there is an energetic absolute answer that will pull them out from the belief that this deception is their only option.
Nevertheless of our religious beliefs and what we may call the source of the energy that wireless electromagnetically makes our heart beat, we each do have a heart beat that creates our unique experiences as our reality. When this electrical energy flows through our body with very little stress, we feel exalted, light, less dense as we have no body, we hear the music when no one is playing and we are joyful, happy and at ease. When we experience any physical or emotional stress, we become denser, slower, heavier, sluggish, not feeling good, unhappy, uncomfortable and dis-eased.
David Hawkins in his book “Power vs Force”, masterfully defines the levels of our emotional stress from the highest at reducing scale up to be; shame, guilt, apathy, grief, fear, desire, anger, pride, courage, neutrality, willingness, acceptance, reason, love, unconditional love, joy and peace. In a way, when you experience shame, the only way going up the ladder to get to joy and peace is through the door of experiencing guilt, apathy and others as you process yourself out of that shameful emotion. It can be done very fast without any residue left behind or it can be done very slow with many unresolved issues left behind making you to come back and be stuck in each of those levels over and over again. The good news is that it is totally up to you and what you choose.
Most alcoholics get stuck in the emotions of shame and/or guilt. They reach to apathy (hopelessness) for a relief and then somehow they get exposed to alcohol. Because alcohol temporary makes them to go up the ladder to experience grief, fear, desire and anger in a short time during their intoxication, they find this deception to be their solution and the relief. Soon, they have to reach for it more and more as they develop a tolerance to its absorption same as digging themselves in a deeper and deeper hole in the example above-mentioned.
Change comes when we act beyond our environment and what we have become accustom to. This means realizing that moving up the emotional ladder is available to them at choice , at any moment and without the need for any substance and only by allowing themselves to go through those steps. Sometimes, this is best when guided by a professional or knowledgeable friends understanding the progression of those steps and sometimes the individuals can find the way on their own as they can no longer tolerate the discomfort.
Since the highest stress levels are shame and guilt and the gate to releasing both of them is through forgiveness of ourselves and others, the forgiveness meditations posted in previous articles and/or other similar techniques such EMDR, EFT, Grief Therapy, and Timeline Therapy will be very productive. Yoga, breathing, physical activities and practices to stop the viscous cycle of having defeating thoughts will be a great companion as eventually they recognize the power within as the need for external substances vanish. Understanding the ladder noted above is a must in order to assist in removing any confusions and fear along the way.
Sometimes, the best way to allow irritation to pass is to experience it by simply, patiently and lovingly allow yourself to be irritated without justifying it, without making excuses and with love and compassion. Recognizing that love can only be generated from self to self and can only be extended to others when it has overflown from the individual. Love heals all wounds and begins when you align with the energy that beats your heart without any resistance. It is your essence, it is time to come home again and be healed.
Alex Abossein,
InnerFit, Oasis For Perfect Health