Most of us use the word “I LOVE YOU” many times every day and rarely get an opportunity to investigate our intention to see what we really mean by that: “I love you unconditionally.” OR “I love you when you act in a way that is pleasing to me.”
We consider both of them as love and refer to them many times to show our affection toward others, however which one do we really believe in and practice? Since our extreme opposite polarities is defined as love and fear, then it may be safe to assume that any mixture of fear with love will create conditional love.
As children we are born with energetic unconditional love but something changes as we grow up. We start deviating from that energetic love to a love that is established through our feelings. Since feelings are usually responses that we get from something or someone, all feeling driven responses will make that love conditional. This will soon shift our interpretation that when we feel good we offer unconditional love and when we feel not so good we offer conditional love. This is mainly caused by shifting away from the truth that all love are from self to self since you can not give a way something that you do not have.
Since we define all our experiences in comparison from the only measuring bar that we know “ourselves” first, then the unconditional love must be recognized and offered internally from self to self first before it can be extended to anyone else.
Hafiz Said; “Even after all this time, The sun never says to the earth, ‘You owe me’. Look what happens with a love like that. It lights the whole sky.”
The path to love more is to care less knowing that allowing others to be free to be themselves with assurance that you love them regardless of conditions, regardless of what they decide is defined as unconditional love. Accepting ourselves and others just the way we are facilitates removing all self-imposed conditions causing diversions.
We may say that the door from conditional love to unconditional love is through forgiveness and self-acceptance since the fear that has imposed the conditions must be left behind as we enter through the new recognition that there is only one form of love and that has no conditions.
“Unconditional Love starts from within. It is not dependent upon anyone or anything. Unconditional Love is eternal transcending both time and space. It does not have any expectations or restrictions attached to it whatsoever. It’s completely without all limitation. There is an endless supply of unconditional love inside each of us of which we can use to create the world and lives of our dreams. We all have the power to dream a new world full of unconditional Love, Peace and Unity for all into being here and now. To awake into this new tomorrow, follow your heart, believe in yourself and trust in love. (By Paul Adkins)”
Alex Abossein,
InnerFit, Oasis For Perfect Health
“Dedicated To My Wife (Tammy) and Her Unconditional Love on Her Birthday Nov-14th.”